7 Fun Ways To Gamify Your Boring Sex Life
Everyone interprets sex differently, but when a roll in the sack feels like a choreographed routine to reach orgasm or a chore like doing the dishes or taking out the trash, it might be time to change things up. Like videos games, sex games don’t have to be exclusively goal-oriented. A fun sex game is meant to help you diversify your pleasure (and maybe even make you laugh a little).
Now, I’m not talking about Truth or Dare, or Seven Minutes in Heaven, or what I imagine would be a very short round of Spin the Bottle. There are so many online resources, toys and tools to gamify your sex life, making all parts of the sexual response cycle really count. Hell, there are even some fun options if you’re only doing single-player games right now. Below, seven ways to emphasize the “play” in sex play with fun games.
Fun sex games to play with your partner (or yourself)
1. Wheel of Foreplay
Wheel of Foreplay is a veritable circus of creative sex ideas, using a virtual wheel and different game packs to deliver little challenges. Depending the nature of your sexual dynamic (long distance, solo sex, whatever) you’ll get different prompts. I just picked out a card from the Some Like It Hot pack. “Put on a streaming service and play the last show you watched,” it reads. “Your partner has to perform oral sex through the opening sequence of the show.”
Seems like a dodgy way to repurpose the Sailor Moon theme song, but I love the bravery.
2. Kinkly’s Sex Position Generator
Sometimes the deeper into a relationship the more you get into a certified sex routine—a series almost choreographed moves that traditionally work, or eventually just sort of lose their luster. If you feel like the spark is gone, Kinkly has a sex position generator that you can filter according to position type, erogenous zone stimulation, mobility and accessories. Plug in your pleasure and see what comes up!
3. CalExotics EmojiGasm Dice
If you and your partner don’t know where to start, CalExotics Emojigasm Dice is a super non-intimidating (read: adorable) way to find out where the night should take you. With each die representing body part, action, and location you’re bound to get lucky with these friends.
Shop now: Emojigasm Dice, $11
Eforia is a sexual wellness app with different functions meant to get you in the mood, but one is particularly good if you’re looking to turn yourself on during solo sex. The “play” feature is basically a dirty choose-you-own adventure roleplay where you receive texts from an imaginary someone, based around a certain erotic narrative. I just tested it out (for journalism) and things got so intense I literally flipped my phone over when my roommate walked into the kitchen. Let’s…move on, shall we?
5. “Use Your Mouth” Sex and Relationship Conversation Starter Cards
Now that we don’t love an old-fashioned game of strip poker, but these cards curated by sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW are great if you want to explore desires with a new (or better yet, old!) partner. It features of deck of 50 open-ended questions about sex and relationships that are destined to bring you both closer. Like way closer.
Shop now: Use Your Mouth, $20
6. Netflix and Strip
As far as resources go you just Netflix for some other streaming platform for this. Easy, right? Courtesy of sexologist Jess O’Reilly, PhD, this game is pretty straightforward. You each select a different word that should occur with some frequency during the show.
“For example, if your selected word is ‘yes,’ you remove one piece of your partner’s clothing each time you hear it,” says Dr. O’Reilly. “If they select ‘no’ as their magic word, they strip you of one article each time they hear it. You can share your words or keep them a secret and let your partner guess. If you do not reveal your word to your lover, it also makes it easier to cheat—and a little cheating is okay in this case as long as it is playful and consensual.”
Break out your toys from your toy box! You can utilize another wearable vibrator of your choosing, but something that can be remote controlled is ideal.
“Wearing a toy like the Moxie or Ditto out for the day and connect to the We-Connect app,” Dr. O’Reilly says. “Make a contest to see who finds it more distracting, for example, can you sit through a meeting? Winner gets a special sexy surprise of your choosing.”
Shop now: Moxie by We-Vibe, $129
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